Don’t use or fall for cheesy pickup lines. Some awesome examples would include, ‘‘did it hurt when you fell from heaven?’’ or ‘‘if I said I want your body now, would you hold it against me?’’ Um, pass. Save the cheese for some nachos.
PS- If at any point during conversation they refer to their business as ‘The Anaconda’ or a ‘Love Stick’.... RUN. Far, far away.
PS- If at any point during conversation they refer to their business as ‘The Anaconda’ or a ‘Love Stick’.... RUN. Far, far away.
Do be flirty, not aggressive.
Don’t act like you’re something you’re not.
Do be yourself and have fun. When you’re having a good time laughing and dancing people will see that. It makes you look approachable. No one likes a snoozefest.
Always go into anything knowing your expectations for yourself and open to finding chemistry. Know this isn’t a love quest, this is a good time. The higher the expectations, the more room for disappointment. Oh- and PLEASE brush your teeth. Having minty, fresh breath is the way to go. No one wants to smell what you had for lunch.
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During a hook up, don’t take it too seriously. Chances are your hook up isn’t going to be like Jack and Rose’s passionate adventures in Titanic. This is real life, and there is always some sort of awkward moment.
Do laugh it off. In hook ups, you’re bound to have a slip up. Things don’t always go perfectly.
Never, ever force yourself into something uncomfortable. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do.
Post Hook Up
Do acknowledge the person after. You don’t have to necessarily share your most intimate secrets, a simple wave or quick hello will always suffice.
Don’t weirdly ignore your hookup any chance you get, even if it did suck. That’s just rude.
Don’t feel shame. You don’t always have to justify and explain yourself. Even if things went terribly wrong, learn from the experience and mend your mistakes.
What you say about laughing it off when you make a mistake is so relevant, because messing up in this situation is such a big fear for so many people.
ReplyDeleteBut, what would you advise someone who is trying to avoid a hook-up completely? If you're at a party, and someone starts coming on to you and they start to make a move, how would you avert this situation without creating an awkward situation instead?
Avoiding a hookup is always tricky, but if you're not into someone then you're just not into someone. Depending on who it is, I'd just be honest. If it's someone you don't really know- tell them 'hey I don't feel comfortable with this because I barely know you.' if its a friend, tell them you just see them as a friend. make it clear the answer is no before they start to make a move. and never be afraid to be assertive. if a guy isn't getting the picture, tell him straight up the answer is no and walk away.
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